And so it begins

So I've been working on some different random topics trying to really get going on my writing. I finally have enough to feel comfortable posting. Hopefully, I can actually get consistent with this. Maybe even one every day! That'd be awesome. Well... Let's see where this goes.

Former Relationships: How Do Their Outcomes Vary? (Written February 8th, 2010)

The last few days have really had me thinking about how I get along with my ex-boyfriends. Just the last two alone show how vast of a difference there can be. They are complete polar opposites. One couldn't have worked out better. The other couldn't be worse.

The first one, I dated for 4 months. We've been broken up for almost a year now, but he's one of my closest friends. We just get each other and we get along too well not to be friends. Anytime I'm home, I make sure to spend time with him even if it's just goofing around or watching movies. We're the kind of friends who don't have to be doing anything to have fun. I can talk to him about anything and he knows he can talk to me. No matter what, we always end up laughing and having a great time. I don't know what I would do if I didn't have him as a friend. He gets frustrated with me for it sometimes, but anytime I have a problem, I go to him because he isn't going to sugar-coat anything. If I'm being a total idiot, he'll tell me. I'm the same way with him. I really think that honesty and trust is the key to our friendship. We had a great relationship while it lasted, and while I was upset about the breakup, it ended on good terms. Once I got over the heartbreak, our friendship really strengthened. I'm so thankful for that.

Then there's the more recent one. We dated for about three months and have been broken up for about that long. It was an awful breakup with a lot of drama. We used to spend every day together. Now, we barely even speak. I never would have imagined things would be like this between us, but that's how it worked out. We haven't had a real conversation for months. All we do is fight. It amazes me how two people can go from being inseparable to not being able to be around each other. I saw him walking from class today. This isn't the first time I've passed him, and not once have we acknowledged the existence of the other. I suppose we have a mutual agreement of cutting each other out of our lives. Maybe one day we'll be able to get along, but for now I don't see that happening. The sad part of it is that I'm perfectly ok with that.

Of course, I have had other past relationships. I am friends with some. Others, I haven't talked to in a long time. It really just depends on how I knew them. Some people are only meant to be in your life temporarily. Others will be there for a lifetime. I hope all those I no longer am in contact with are doing well, and I hope those I still have friendships with will be my friends forever.

So what's your experience with this? Any thoughts?